January 31st went by, and with the
morning of February 1st a beam of hope pranced across my room, it will be
spring in no time! The many-sweater weather of North India
still unsettles me for a hundred days every year. The sun playing hide and seek, and the
fog wrapping my world in a cold blanket, winter literally and figuratively
sends shivers down my back. Khori too copes no better, I found out. The
villagers here shivered just as much as I did and took solace in the unending
stream of chai that kept flowing from the kitchen. After back-breaking
bus/tempo journeys followed up by an average 5 km walk to reach a village, the
exhaustion is writ on the face. Chai, just not for the winter but to
refresh too.
Chai.
Born into a Tamil household, tea
was never my cup of tea. Nothing beats a filter coffee after meals, before
meals and in between meals. Here in the villages that I visit every day, any
conversation that extends over two minutes automatically turns into a chat over
chai. One can just not refuse!
House 1
"Chai le lo!"
"Nahi ji, abhi khana khaya
hai. Thank you."
"Hamare gaon tak aaye ho.
Kyon nahi? Idhar le lo!" (A porcelain cup is thrusted in
my direction; any indifference or protest would lead to a spill-over. To avoid
the mess, I drink)
House 2
"Chai logey?"
"Nahi ji, abhi unke ghar mein
piya tha. Bahut chai ho gaye."
"Udhar ka tha unka chai, ab
hamara piyo!" (Next I know, I am drinking tea)
House 3
"Accha ji, chai-pani?
Roti?"
"Nahi ji, main chai peeti hi
nahi." (Tactic changed. So proud)
"Toh dhudh le lo. Ya lassi?"
(Couldn't deny. There I went sipping milk or lassi, which is always served in
half-litre glasses!!)
House 4
"Aur chai piyoge?"
(Frustrated I think, why do they bother asking. Then too I try the last
trick-refusal)
"Abhi abhi lassi piya hai.
Dahi aur chai, mera paet kharab ho jayega. Nahi ji, thank you."
"Aap aise isliye keh rahe
hain, kyonki ham gareeb/Harijan/gaon-wale hain."
I begged for forgiveness and
gulped down another cup of tea.
Over tea the camaraderie eases
comfortably, no doubt about that, but the interaction before that one cup leaves me reeling.
For me it was an effort to leave them unoffended, for them it was a custom to
leave their guest fulfilled. The athiti devo bhava culture is soaked in
the communities, which makes my refusals so offensive. The worst of course, is
the fall-out of them feeling inferior because of their caste, economic status
or place of residence. Meaning no offence at all, I make quick apologies to
bail me out and accept their cups of chai with utmost gratitude. It hits
me how hard these societal dogmas still prevail in the rural areas. Especially
the caste difference. chai is just not another drink, not a conversation-enhancer. It is a status-symbol of its own kind. It was a parameter offering to see if a person was willing to interact with the other!! After my talking and more tea-drinking, I again go walking. Walking across the fields, walking across the hills. Walking when it sunned down hard and walking when the cold hung numb on the limbs.
To my disappointment, February was
turning no better than January. Forget winter, but messy battles raged
Upstairs. Rain and wind, dust and hail, Haryana gave me all its love. Ferocious
clouds loomed over my solitary walks, rattling thunderstorms woke me from my
sleep. Rain lashed across the nascent crop and over the hardened rocks The sun refused to show face
for nearly three days. With rain though, everything changed. My perspectives
too.
Rain.
It raged on like a monstrosity for
the first two days of the week. There was little road between the puddles. And
in all those villages without proper drainage system, the sewer was the canal
in the middle of every path. The fields however seemed to glow afresh after the
rains. Again, being brought up in Chennai, rain was an odd occurrence,
especially only as a spoilsport on Diwali every year. The nightmarish condition
of roads in residential areas, water refusing to drain away, Chennai was hardly
a place to fall in love with the rains. Delhi
was no better. Fussy, I maybe, but rains ultimately ruin daily plans and there
is a soggy feeling everywhere. The fields, surprisingly, snapped out that feeling
in me.
The farmers, when asked if the
rains fared well for them, told "bhagwan ne sona barsa hai."
If only gold actually fell, I felt, they would indeed be a prosperous lot. The
crops would benefit from rains at this time, I was told, not from hail. In
few parts of the district hailstones had damaged crops. But the rains did
something to the place, or perhaps me, apart from the crops glistening in its
aftermath. I realised that without the pollution and concrete gray scale of a
city, the rural environment is a wonderful setting to enjoy the rain. There is
so much green; once the skies clear one can enjoy that view too. The houses are
spaced with aangans and backyard gardens, there are just so many nooks
from where the rain could be enjoyed. That is if I were standing and watching
the rain from under a tree or at the front of a courtyard. That was not the
case. I had to walk.
The pools that sprung out of
nowhere made it harassing to balance on tiptoes and get across the really
narrow and winding lanes of the villages. On one such afternoon, I reached
Bhankli to speak to a women's group on the necessity of taking a political
initiative and participating in the Gram Sabhas. The village was behind a rice
and grain godown. The main road leading to the village was cut off by the
un-passable puddle. I had no option but to find some other way. The warehouse
stared down on me like Goliath on David. I was desperate to get to the other
side. I quickly walked through the unused part, and climbed the wall and jumped
over to the other side, in a hurry. A sharp yelp rose from behind me. Unknown
to me, a group of men were playing cards on the other side of the wall and I
had just jumped over their heads and landed just a hair's inch away! It was
blasphemy for a young female to do any such stunts in a village. To their
oncoming lectures on morals I returned my best smile and walked on.
"How did the villagers,
especially the old men and women, manage to get in and out of the village during
the rains?!" "What about a pregnant woman?" "How about
somebody carrying a load?" These thoughts crept across my mind, wondering
if there were actually villages that got cut from the rest during the rains for
lack of proper roads? Still reeling from my little thrill of jumping over a
wall, probably the first in the last 4 years, I kept walking. Bhankli was
nearby, I had to walk only a little. On many days, I have had to walk 8-10 km
to reach a village. No tempo, no bus, at times not even people walking on the path for the whole distance. Dogs
give company on pleasant days, on other days it is just a never-ending walk
between trees, thorns and fields. Haryana's landscape changes so quick. It's
green a moment, brown the next and yellow, right after. Soaking in the variety, I
keep walking. On another day while walking, a tractor passed me by.
Canine company on a pleasant day in a cleaner village, Aliyawas. I'm not that lucky to find a soul or a clean street on many days. |
TRACTOR.
There was a little hesitation that
I had to overcome, I was not used to asking for a lift. I got offered many, but
I had asked for very few in the last 5 months. Budana, my destination was at
least 8 km away from Tatarpur, where I was. The puddles and the rain were no
incentive to keep on foot. And I did it; stuck my hand out and meekly asked,
"Budana?" The farmer simply pointed to the seat next to him on the
tractor.
I shifted to Haryana in October. I
saw tractors drive to anaz mandis with sacks of bajra to be sold.
I saw tractors tilling the fresh soil from my backyard. I saw tractors leveling
the soil in the fields opposite to my campus. I saw a cart attached to a
tractor and women singing while travelling in them. It was October, I really
wanted to ride on a tractor.
February, I got my chance. The
thrill of jumping a wall the previous day had not yet abated and I had hopped
on to the tractor already like a child latching on to a candy offered.
Navigating through the bumpy road and un-drained water, the tractor got off to
a slow start. Still plastered with a grin, I was just planning to get my camera
out and click a few pictures. Then the tractor gave a lurch. Gently shaken, I
put the camera in my bag. The moment was so unexpected, the jerk first and then
the tractor took off at a really good speed. Nearly 80kmph. It was an effort to
not squeal like a teenager at the amusement park! What fun and doubly sweetened
by the massive wait of 5 months.
A quick shot from the camera on my phone before the tractor sped away! |
In no time I was at Budana and the
farmer dropped me off with a wave of a hand. I mumbled my thanks, standing
rooted to the spot even after the tractor had long gone. It was taking me
several moments to register this "first-experience". Then reality
dawned, I still had to walk through the crooked, dirty lanes to reach the
meeting. So, I went walking.
You have me glued to your stories of the way of life there,very interesting blog,I will follow you too,phyllis
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